A dysfunctional relationship is a tragedy

Mother and Child photo by Alex Furr Southampton, Great Britain http://www.loopit.org , http://www.sxc.hu/photo/47328 dysfunctional relationshipLiving in a relationship that is unhappy can lead to sickness. Some people sacrifice themselves for the sake of appearances and their children. They think that it is better to stay in the relationship than to break up a family. However, what they don’t realise is that staying in a dysfunctional relationship is a tragedy for the children and all concerned. This only provides an example of how miserable life can be and that we have to put up with it. It is far better that counselling be sought in an attempt to improve things or failing that believing that a fresh start can bring a better life.

she cried as she told me her tragic story
of domestic violence and misery
the fear for her children’s future
was another side to it and
in response to my suggestion that
should she want to move on there are
refuges for the safety of women like her
she stared me straight in the face and
told me that she couldn’t bear the
thought of breaking up her family
“what would people say?”
I wondered what tragedy would be the
outcome of this dysfunctional relationship

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15 thoughts on “A dysfunctional relationship is a tragedy”

  1. Actually this problem can be resolved if both parties will cooperate in a counseling session to revive the spark in a relationship. What is wrong in a relationship is that they tend to forget to care for each other because of busyness a work or in other things. Most counseling experts will always say that make time to enjoy each other’s company in a vacation or a weekend date so that both of you can reminisce the relationship you both started way way back. I still believe that love do exists in the relationship. What needs to be done is to revive it. Trust me, I’m young but open enough to understand.

  2. it’s kinda unfair for someone who is happy being with you and you’re not happy being with that someone., so i guess it’s better to let go of someone, at least be true to yourself.

  3. It is true. Living in a unhappy relationships causes too much stress that would later bring sickness to the person. Aside from that, constant fighting and shouting, is really very unnerving.

  4. While its best to try to save a relationship, i suppose that there are some that cannot be saved…

  5. I agree that staying in an unhappy relationship can make you sick. It’s better to move out than making up for reason coz unless you yourself are happy, you won’t be able to make the people around you happy.

  6. This is a good theme to talk about but at first let’s figure out one moment… help me with telling me the differences between relation and relationship?
    Children would be better off with one parent who is functional than 2 parents who are not!
    enjoy life’s good.!

  7. Hello. Right or wrong, I tried to hang onto a bad relationship for a few years because of my 2 sons. I didn’t want to live away from them and not see them to school and see them come home, but in the end she filed for a divorce. This was in 1996 and it did have an impact negatively on my future relationship with the children. Meaning that they did not have enough time with dad. weekends and time during the summer months wasn’t enough. If I could have it all back I would stil try and hang onto the relationship no matter the dissention between me and her. We did swear till death do us part. Thanks.

  8. I definitely agree staying in an unhappy relationship can make you sick. The most important thing in life is your own personal happiness and maybe at one point the reason for initially getting into a relationship with someone is that at the beginning it did make you incredibly happy…

    But if there are no tools for navigating through the problems or if you first figure out what it is you need from your partner to be happy and you ask for it and they are either unable or unwilling to provide that then it’s definitely time to move on.

  9. I completely agree that dysfunctional relationships are far worse than no relationship at all. Children would be better off with one parent who is functional than 2 parents who are not!
    Joy

  10. Hello, everyone,

    It’s a good theme to talk about but at first let’s figure out one moment… help me with telling me the differences between relation and relationship?

    Thanks 🙂

    Carla

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