When two people divorce many changes take place. Learning to relate with each other sensibly over property, pets, final arrangements, and more importantly over the children, if there are any. Then there are their friends who usually find it difficult to remain true to both of them and therefore take sides. The most difficult transition is the relationship involving his family and her family. How hard it is to let go of the other partner’s family when they have been the in-laws for as long as the relationship lasted, sometimes many years. Yet it’s rare for families from each side to stay close, the best they can do is remain civil when they meet at mutual formal gatherings.
for twenty years she called his parents Mum and Dad
as he did her parents and then they parted
how naive she was to expect that their relationship,
as well as that of their mutual friends, would continue
some friends sided with her and some with him
and when none of his family included her
she justified that they were his family and so
it was understood that he needed them more
but she often wondered how she was expected
to cut them out her life after treating them
as parents for most of her life?!
then she realised that his version of the break-up
was bound to make her out the ogre!