Fear, Anxiety and the Need for Control

Midnight BooAMae Sultana Look into my eyes rose by any other name is still the same – TERROR, TRAUMA then WAR which brings on feelings of retribution, action and  production of  WAR PARAPHERNALIA which in turn swells the financial coffers of the nation (what a relief in time of woe). It’s like a pressure cooker effect at some point the steam is released and all is well the food is superb.  Until that point however the global population is on tenterhooks and fearful like our household pets on fireworks night: planes go missing, get  blown up, innocent  people are beheaded or killed or intimidated, and the hands of powerful authorities seem tied!

THEN out of the blue a few of the powerful countries band together and shout “ENOUGH’ and “NO MORE”

Some sigh a sigh of relief and shout that a band of barbarian terrorists cannot control the powers of the world.

Others shout that it’s vilification and discrimination!

And some wonder is this WAR going to resolve this madness short and sweet or…

is it going to go on for YEARS and YEARS??????

Photos: My cats  Mae (5) Tabby and Midnight Bombay (14)

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Honouring your heritage

It’s great to integrate into the culture which we have chosen to settle, such as I was born in Romania of Greek father.Elli We came out as refugees, 300 Greek families from Romania who had been released by the Russians to leave due to our Greek nationality and from Greece on the Marshall Plan (agreeing to be declared stateless) choosing  Australia and arriving on the transport ship – General Ballou at Sydney in March 26th 1950 with my family. We settled in our new country nicely – my father George Polimeris, mother Eugenia, brother Apollon (5) and myself  Aphrodita (6) all speaking Greek and Romanian, except that my mother spoke self taught Italian, French, Hebrew, Yiddish, Russian, Hungarian, Spanish,  and my father learned Italian in Australia, we all learned English too

Harbour Bridge

The Greek Romanians formed the Hellenic Cultural Association Acropolis (Greeks from Romania) and they organised regular get togethers such as the New Year’s Eve Dance and a picnic in the Royal National Park each year. In my thirties I became an Office Bearer on the Committee of this organisation then moved away and now I have returned to them and been voted on again at the end of 2013. This January we had a picnic at Ashfield Park and it was well attended with the Romanian Consul and his wife being there. There was music played on a violin by Olga just as she did when I was younger and we ate bbq skinless Romanian sausages with salad and shared the New Year’s Cake (Vasilopita) hoping to be the one to win the $400 gold coin. I felt warm and fuzzy inside with a bit of sadness because my father, mother and brother have died and yet it all seems just like yesterday with all these familiar people who know me and I know from so far back, how amazing is that – it’s like I’ve come home from a trip away.

I remember the first time I learnt to dance at  8 was when all the children my age bounced around close up in  front of the band as they played. Then my father began (my mother had abandoned us taking my disabled brother with her),  teaching me how to dance the tango and waltz. After that I learned for my debut Greek folk dancing which as a mother I taught my children and other children making up the multi ethnic children’s dance group performing at festivals. This came about when I became an ethnic community worker as my profession – I was educating people on the importance of honouring their heritage. In this dance group some of my children’s (Paul and Tina) friends were Italian, Yugoslav (as it was called then), Chinese, Greek Egyptian, and Anglo heritage. So I took my kids to, say, the Chinese Youth dance group and they taught us how to do the scarf dance and to the Romanian dance group who taught us how to dance some folk dances etc. The whole  group then were able to dance a variety of ethnic dances regardless of their ethnic origin. The dancers ranged in age from 7 to 14 and they performed to celebrate events such as Children’s week in the Town Hall square to the opening of the Ethnic Child Care Development Unit in 1979 of which I was the founding Co-ordinator and which was funded by the Federal Government Dept of Social Security. As Senator Guilfoyle was not available to carry out the ceremony the Hon Bob Ellicott,  Minister for Home Affairs represented her. To my delight  in 1980 Minister Bob Ellicott included me as one of the community representatives in the contingent funded to attend the United Nations Women’s Conference/Forum for Peace & Equality – Copenhagen. I had worked with him when he was the member for Wentworth and I was Co-ordinator  for NicNac Community Centre in Surry Hills as I had invited him to come and meet his constituents once a month  to assist them with problems they were experienced with, say, their unfair telephone bills when they were just pensioners. He was indeed helpful especially as he was a good lawyer and had ministerial clout.  Bob was known as a small “l” Liberal Minister.

As an ethnic community worker it was my role to impress on everyone how important multi-cultural thinking is TINA MAQ CENTRAL SUBS WINNER 1providing it means being proud of our heritage while at the same time integrating into the host society – that is trying to keep our customs because they are part of our identity – who we are, as well as adjusting those customs that clash too much with the host society so that we fit in more harmoniously. My daughter (18) won the double title of Miss Central Suburbs and Miss Central Suburbs Highest Fudraiser of Miss Australia Quest Spastic Centre (entered from the Greek Australian Region of MAQ ). We all know which those clashing customs are and so I will not list them all here except to mention that I do not believe it is acceptable to continue to persist with woman wearing head gear that covers their faces when being tested for/and driving which can be dangerous to others; or habits which support warmongering and riots, or rape, or female circumcision etc. In cases such as these the host society needs to rethink the setting of legal limits for multiculturalism before we “shoot ourselves in the foot” as has  been witnessed in other advanced minded countries which have been forced to backtrack their multicultural policies due to major conflict and  unrest as a result of antiquated customs from other cultures of immigrants entering into these progressive cultures (as in parts of France and the Scandanavian countries to name some).

Also I was for some years an Office Bearer in the Australian Hellenic Educational Society  of Australia (AHEPA) and enjoyed the fellowship it brought including encouraging my children when they become adolescents to join and my daughter, Tina, experienced her debut with her brother, Paul as her escort, which was lovely however is not something that takes place nowadays (too bad).

All I can say is Honour Your Heritage but make sure you take the part that is useful and loving and let go of the part that is hurtful and painful! It is a powerful feeling to know you belong to a group of like minded people who have the similar “roots” to you.Hands, photo by Marco Michelini, Firenze, Italy, reach outAffie Lets be friends

 

 

 

 

 

UN INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY 2013

Rwandan reprepresentative one GLAPD
Dr Nadine Shema Rwandan representative on GLAPD

United Nations International Women’s Day 2013 was featured as as Seminar by the United Nations Association of Australia (NSW) and co sponsored by the Humanist Society of NSW, held on Friday 8th March at 2.30 in the Jubilee Room Parliament House, with the Keynote Speaker being Dr. Nadine Shema from Rwanda. This event was attended by 50 people and was claimed to be a success. Nadine presented her factual evidence on the empowerment of women in Rwanda – with statistical slides. Such an inspirational guide was this to all women showing what amazing situation improvement can be accomplished by women. Nadine was dressed exquisitely in traditional silk material. Some of her colleagues brought dresses to sell in order to raise funds for their cause. Following the Seminar we had a delicious afternoon tea.

Other speakers were the 2013 UNAA(NSW) President Valerie Weekes and Committee Member Diane Sackelarious, UNWA (United Nations Women’s Association) past President Sue Conde. As I was the Humanist Society of NSW delegate on the UNAA (NSW) Executive Committee and Convenor of the IWD Seminar, I was the MC. The Seminar was hosted by The Hon. Mike Baird MP.

Members of both UNAA(NSW), HumSocNSW and those involved in the Seminar were all invaluable with their assistance and contributions.So it was such a fulfilling experience for me as the Convenor as I am sure it was for everyone else.

Such a treat for me too because March 8 is also my birthday.