So many people nowadays suffer with sex and love addiction and yet are in denial about it. They are seen as rogues and the behaviour is condoned. Or it seems easier for people to believe that a person is worthless because they lose control of their desires for sex and love. Whereas if there was more understanding that this behaviour is a disorder or disease which can be treated, then it could be corrected. It is described simply by the need to have sex and love in order to get a thrill, only to feel guilty afterwards because the consequences are bleak and people are hurt. At times it is life-threatening when those involved are careless too.
he said that he couldn’t understand
what happened and that he took such a chance
he had not intended to have a one night stand
and yet he felt driven and what’s more
he didn’t use a condom
now he was stressed as he may have
signed his own death warrant
this was not the first time this had happened
and yet he is a good looking, successful guy
any number of women are attracted to him
something had to be done and right away
he agreed he couldn’t do it alone and needed help
he’d been to have his Aids test and
now he made a commitment to go to
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous which
he had resisted for so long
when I saw him next he seemed
more serene and spoke about how
surprised he was at meeting people
he respected and some who had
been through the same thing as he had
but were free of the madness
and now he felt there was hope for him
I saw him again one year later and he
was in recovery and grateful for his health
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Hi,
responsing to Daybreak’s comments and saying that understanding Sexual addiction seminars are designed for … who have a desire to understand the destructive nature of sexual addiction, I can only agree and stress the importance of understanding the roots for sex addiction. Often, people are just blindly blamed for their addictions. I have a web-page summarizing information on sex addiction http://www.facingloveaddiction.com and one of the points I found during my research is that often early childhood sexual traumata or a failed relationship or unhealthy infatuation during early adolescence are the roots for sex addiction. In my opinion, the addict is not to blame for these roots.
Just my two cents…
love and addiction – facing love addiction
Hello Dr Adagio,
In terms of making amends, what if you are not sure whether the person feels you have done anything wrong by them-should you approach to make amends? For example if in your mind you feel you have disrespected them-but they might not feel that way.
Also if you don’t know the person very well is a letter better? And what if you cannot find the person?
Thank you,
Peter
my gf has said that she was previously a love addict, she seems fine and i love her. she has few freinds of her own though and seems to look at everything as a struggle. can people just come out of love addiction if they find someone to love them.
@David: comments like yours are inspirational, congratulations for your recovery.
I so identify with the denial you speak about. As my addiction grew, so did my isolation. I was ashamed to speak to anyone about it. Gradually, as the wheels literally came off in my life, I had to seek help. I’m glad I did and I’m glad there are people like you out there helping people like me. Fifteen months later and life is looking much better. Keep up the good work
I like the way you handled that Paul. You show an ability to correct someone’s inappropriate behaviour in a professional manner.
Thank you.
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