Category: Life Strategies

Transparency

Once we referred to transparency as being open and honest about where we are in the here and now. It doesn’t really matter what it is called, honesty frees us from the pain of confusion, isolation, depression and much more. There is nothing to be ashamed of because you are not alone and others are going through the same trauma or dilemma too.

we think that hiding the pain
will make it go away and
instead it becomes worse
until we realise that by
reaching out
sharing
asking for support
makes Life so much easier

some decisions become easier with help

some decisions become easier with help

Are you wondering why you are finding it so hard to make a decision? Things become so hard to do with the constant internal argument of “on one hand it’s a good idea but on the other hand it will change things too much”. When this happens then that can mean that something in your life is causing more stress than usual. It could be the job, or a relationship, or life in general. Then again it could be your health. Depression can cause indecision. Take care of yourself by having a medical check up.

Life had become difficult full of indecision
and I thought about what was wrong
should I change my job?
go on a holiday?
leave you behind?
then I spoke to my doctor
now things look better already
some decisions become easier with help

I wrote and wrote

Of what benefit is it to write about our emotions as they occur? This question is often asked and the answer is quite simple. As your inner world is ravaged by every day problems, when you write down how you feel in that moment it is an expression and release tool which alleviates some of the stress and makes the big picture clearer.

my thoughts became jumbled
my feelings stormed around
what is this about, I thought?
pen in hand I wrote and wrote
anger
self-pity
sadness
all vying for central position
I threw the notes out when finished
inner peace once more

it would be helpful to notice what we say

one of the best lessons in life is that
we teach what we need to learn
so when people come our way
asking for answers to their questions
and we spontaneously offer suggestions
it would be helpful to notice what we say

in our comments we will see
that we are giving answers to
our own current problems
and all it takes is to pay attention
then we have the solutions
sometimes one, sometimes many
right under our very own noses

make dreams come true

having a program to live healthy
by eating well and avoiding smoking
no excessive drinking or spending
staying true to yourself and your loved ones
can help achieve those goals that
make dreams come true

the only things that can go wrong
is with the HALTS, that is being:
hungry, angry, lonely, tired and serious
then all good plans can go astray and
the best intentions disintegrate
so make a plan and stick to it

I remember the firewalk

Sceptics don’t believe that a person can walk on fire. Others think that it is against “God’s” wishes for humans to do such things. Then again some ask “why do it and for what purpose”?

I was one of those who asked this question, but in 1992 a new found friend, Jussta, a qualified firewalker, organised a fundraiser for the Wayside Chapel and as I worked there I joined in the event, which was covered by the media

we danced around the huge fire until it burned down to embers with
flames lapping up at the coals, then she walked across as we watched amazed
then she sang out to me to join her but I hesitated, quite fearful I might add
she held my hand as we made the crossing and she pulled me off as I hesitated
that cost me a small blister but with great delight at my accomplishment
nevertheless, many a time I am faced with tasks that I undergo and
as usual when I am tempted to stop before I am quite finished
I remember the firewalk and then complete the effort
it was one of the most empowering things I have done in my life

our happiness or unhappiness

what makes a good mood turn into a bad one and then back again?
could be it’s what we make ourselves do
if we choose something boring or antagonising, our mood follows
when we choose something enjoyable, our mood follows too

so it stands to reason that changing what we are doing will
lead to how we want to feel and less likely that we can hold
other people places and things responsible for our happiness or unhappiness