we teach what we need to learn

Have you heard yourself tell people how to solve their latest problem. When your suggestion is appreciated you are making a constructive point. That point could also be something you need to take note of yourself for we teach what we need to learn.

faced with an unsolvable problem
I felt too exasperated to
think about it any more!
then in response to someone’s dilemma
I heard myself give
a helpful solution to my own problem
this reminded me that
we teach what we need to learn

purpose and direction

Finishing a task always helps us to feel that we have been productive in life. Having purpose and direction is extremely important to our wellbeing. Achievement fuels our self-esteem. There is a sense of completion of unfinished business that is always positive no matter how small the task.

I procrastinated and delayed the completion of my task
I knew that I would become motivated eventually
that thought did help, somewhat
as the anxiety lessened about the task
I found the ‘get up and go’ to tackle it
and how great it feels to have finished
at last

money comes, money goes

Are you one of these people who spends money as quickly as it comes to you?
Do you wonder how that can be changed? Then make the commitment to put
some away for emergencies and then you won’t be broke all the time.

money comes to me but
I can’t seem to not spend it all
in other words – money comes, money goes
and when I need it there’s none
so from now on I’ve made
a commitment to
store a little away
for a ‘rainy day’ as they say
and then money comes to money

separation

We fall in love and think it is for the rest of our lives. Then the time comes when we cause more pain to each other than it is humanly possible to take. The thought of failure stops us from doing what is best. The children suffer to see their parents fight – not a very good example for marriage. Some folks are smart enough to seek help from counselling and the solution takes place. Others think counselling is shameful or ridiculous and their unhappiness is prolonged. Sometimes nothing can salvage the relationship and it is far better to part, providing it is done in a healthy way. Then those involved will learn from the experience rather than just suffer trauma.

my life with you promised to be
a dream come true
what happened that it all turned
into so much pain?
was it me, was it you?
then separation was the only
answer
the end of a dream
as we carefully explained it
to the children and hoped
that they would understand
why it had to end

reminiscing is therapeutic

It’s nearly the end of the year again, reminding me how time flies. Remembering the time gone by I realise thirty years have passed and it seems as though it was yesterday. The memories are good and bad. Each brings back musical tunes, smells, tastes, feelings like in the here and now. Reminiscing has its therapeutic value even when it involves grief.

how good to remember that tune
“and they call it puppy love”
brings back the feeling
exactly how it was then
nevertheless my heart flutters now
as it did when I first heard that song
yet it was decades ago
amazing!

karmic debt

Some people believe in karma and the debt, others think that karma is superstition or a belief in the supernatural. Regardless of which worldview we have it is much more productive and even healthier to do things in life that can be repeated by others to benefit humanity .

they say what goes ‘round comes ‘round
reap and ye shall sow
do unto others as you would have them
do unto you
doesn’t matter which text you believe in
it all means the same
the karmic debt will be paid
eventually!

Transparency

Once we referred to transparency as being open and honest about where we are in the here and now. It doesn’t really matter what it is called, honesty frees us from the pain of confusion, isolation, depression and much more. There is nothing to be ashamed of because you are not alone and others are going through the same trauma or dilemma too.

we think that hiding the pain
will make it go away and
instead it becomes worse
until we realise that by
reaching out
sharing
asking for support
makes Life so much easier

some decisions become easier with help

some decisions become easier with help

Are you wondering why you are finding it so hard to make a decision? Things become so hard to do with the constant internal argument of “on one hand it’s a good idea but on the other hand it will change things too much”. When this happens then that can mean that something in your life is causing more stress than usual. It could be the job, or a relationship, or life in general. Then again it could be your health. Depression can cause indecision. Take care of yourself by having a medical check up.

Life had become difficult full of indecision
and I thought about what was wrong
should I change my job?
go on a holiday?
leave you behind?
then I spoke to my doctor
now things look better already
some decisions become easier with help

I wrote and wrote

Of what benefit is it to write about our emotions as they occur? This question is often asked and the answer is quite simple. As your inner world is ravaged by every day problems, when you write down how you feel in that moment it is an expression and release tool which alleviates some of the stress and makes the big picture clearer.

my thoughts became jumbled
my feelings stormed around
what is this about, I thought?
pen in hand I wrote and wrote
anger
self-pity
sadness
all vying for central position
I threw the notes out when finished
inner peace once more