Are you one of these people who spends money as quickly as it comes to you?
Do you wonder how that can be changed? Then make the commitment to put
some away for emergencies and then you won’t be broke all the time.
money comes to me but
I can’t seem to not spend it all
in other words – money comes, money goes
and when I need it there’s none
so from now on I’ve made
a commitment to
store a little away
for a ‘rainy day’ as they say
and then money comes to money
We fall in love and think it is for the rest of our lives. Then the time comes when we cause more pain to each other than it is humanly possible to take. The thought of failure stops us from doing what is best. The children suffer to see their parents fight – not a very good example for marriage. Some folks are smart enough to seek help from counselling and the solution takes place. Others think counselling is shameful or ridiculous and their unhappiness is prolonged. Sometimes nothing can salvage the relationship and it is far better to part, providing it is done in a healthy way. Then those involved will learn from the experience rather than just suffer trauma.
my life with you promised to be
a dream come true
what happened that it all turned
into so much pain?
was it me, was it you?
then separation was the only
answer
the end of a dream
as we carefully explained it
to the children and hoped
that they would understand
why it had to end
It’s nearly the end of the year again, reminding me how time flies. Remembering the time gone by I realise thirty years have passed and it seems as though it was yesterday. The memories are good and bad. Each brings back musical tunes, smells, tastes, feelings like in the here and now. Reminiscing has its therapeutic value even when it involves grief.
how good to remember that tune
“and they call it puppy love”
brings back the feeling
exactly how it was then
nevertheless my heart flutters now
as it did when I first heard that song
yet it was decades ago
amazing!
Some people believe in karma and the debt, others think that karma is superstition or a belief in the supernatural. Regardless of which worldview we have it is much more productive and even healthier to do things in life that can be repeated by others to benefit humanity .
they say what goes ‘round comes ‘round
reap and ye shall sow
do unto others as you would have them
do unto you
doesn’t matter which text you believe in
it all means the same
the karmic debt will be paid
eventually!
Once we referred to transparency as being open and honest about where we are in the here and now. It doesn’t really matter what it is called, honesty frees us from the pain of confusion, isolation, depression and much more. There is nothing to be ashamed of because you are not alone and others are going through the same trauma or dilemma too.
we think that hiding the pain
will make it go away and
instead it becomes worse
until we realise that by
reaching out
sharing
asking for support
makes Life so much easier
some decisions become easier with help
Are you wondering why you are finding it so hard to make a decision? Things become so hard to do with the constant internal argument of “on one hand it’s a good idea but on the other hand it will change things too much”. When this happens then that can mean that something in your life is causing more stress than usual. It could be the job, or a relationship, or life in general. Then again it could be your health. Depression can cause indecision. Take care of yourself by having a medical check up.
Life had become difficult full of indecision
and I thought about what was wrong
should I change my job?
go on a holiday?
leave you behind?
then I spoke to my doctor
now things look better already
some decisions become easier with help
Of what benefit is it to write about our emotions as they occur? This question is often asked and the answer is quite simple. As your inner world is ravaged by every day problems, when you write down how you feel in that moment it is an expression and release tool which alleviates some of the stress and makes the big picture clearer.
my thoughts became jumbled
my feelings stormed around
what is this about, I thought?
pen in hand I wrote and wrote
anger
self-pity
sadness
all vying for central position
I threw the notes out when finished
inner peace once more
how often have we visualised our ideal world
and only to come across obstacles that make it
appear out of reach and then dare to dream for fear
that it will disintegrate once more
obstacles should be treated as challenges that make
the dream more reachable
so don’t give up, keep the big picture in mind
and it will come about, eventually
when a lover says that it’s over
the shock and anger is unbelievable
“it’s not true, it’s a nightmare, how could it be?”
then the bargaining adds to the turmoil
“could things have been handled differently
and the loss of a love been avoided?”
getting through this phase does not guarantee
that the acceptance of the loss is reached
unfortunately this pain can go on in cycles
nevertheless it does get better
and we move on to happier and more fulfilling times
having hope for that gets us through the worst moments
some were invited today to celebrate
the life and works of this great man
he led a life that influenced many
and although he did not suffer fools
his warmth was far greater than most
if your were fortunate enough to
be the recipient of that side of him
as I sat and listened to leaders
speak of their experiences with him
I remembered the warmth he showed me
and that of his wife, Myfanwy, too
goodbye Donald Horne
it was an honour to know you